This is a long page, but it’s all important. That’s because coven work – when it goes right – is an amazing and powerful thing. But it’s that awe and power that makes me so very careful about the initial process before I consider someone as a student for initiation or coven work. (And for me, they basically go together: I won’t take someone as an ongoing student I wouldn’t consider working in coven with.)
Initatory training and group work are both intimate things, that involve a lot of my time and your time – so I want to make sure it’s a good fit for both of us before anyone makes any commitments.
There are lots of really awesome, fascinating people who are not a good fit for coven work with me. A lot of this is because of me, not them, too. Like everyone, I have both virtues and challenges as a friend, teacher, and human being. I’m more flexible about other kinds of interaction, as described on the main page of the site.
When I’m considering someone for either initiatory teaching or group work, here’s what I look at.
These are pretty inflexible, because they’re pretty key to us being able to work together sensibly.
- You must be over 21.
- You must have or can arrange reliable transportation to group events. (Rides from family or other group members are fine, but have a backup plan.)
- If you have a diagnosed ongoing physical or mental health condition, it must have been stable for at least 6 months, and you must have access to appropriate professional support.
- You must be comfortable getting most general updates about group plans by email.
I have some chronic health conditions, and have some firm limits to help me stay healthy. These affect schedule, some allergens, and some life balance choices (like how often we do things.)
We’ll talk about these in detail before you commit to becoming a student, but you can learn a lot of the practical implications on the accessibility page.
Once I’ve looked at the basics, I start looking at other areas.
- Are you interested in this specific tradition and what I can teach?
- Are we free at the same times? Does it seem you’ll be able to get to the teaching space reliably?
- How are you with general respect and courtesy – showing up on time, contributing to shared group work, etc?
- If relevant, how will you fit with other group members, students, or potential students I’m talking to?
- How is the communication going? Do you seem to be okay with how I share information? When we talk, how does that go?
- Are you proactive in exploring topics that are important to you? How have you learned about your path so far? Are you interested in close work with a teacher or group, or are you really more looking for general Pagan conversation?
More nebulous qualities
These things aren’t essential (and some of them you may not know about yourself yet), but the more of them that are true of you, the more likely you are to be a really strong fit:
- You want an emphasis on mature religious commitment and practice.
- You are intellectually curious and value critical thinking.
- You enjoy discussing both theory (why we do something) and process (how we do it).
- You regularly spend some of your free time reading, writing, making music, or creating art.
- You appreciate clear communication, work to improve your own skills, and dislike drama.
- You’re interested in traditional crafts (cooking, knitting, spinning, woodwork, baking, etc.)
- You enjoy being around people with varied interests, and a desire to talk about them and the world around us.
- You like to dig deeply into different kinds of learning and understanding – you’re not content with easy answers.
I expect that…
- You have a life outside the group which includes other responsibilities, commitments, relationships, and interactions. I want to be part of your life, but not your whole world.
- You are comfortable working with people with a range of ages, genders, backgrounds, sexual orientations, and preferences. (I am in my mid 40s now, but have worked with students from their 20s to their 60s comfortably).
- You’re interested in what you see here, and the described work, style, and structure of the group. I’m flexible about some specifics, but there are some things I’m also just not interested in.
We are an initiatory tradition, and initiatory work can demand a great deal of time and attention during some parts of the process.
If you are already planning major changes to your life in the next year (having a baby, finishing college, making a major career change, etc.), I will likely ask you to wait until your life is a little more stable to be considered for training and coven work. (In the meantime, we can cover more general material, share occasional rituals, and so on.)
If at any time you decide that we are not the right place for you, I simply ask that you let me know (preferably at least a few days before our next planned get-together, so I can change plans if needed.) I do generally expect the process will take several meetings (at least 3-5) before we seriously discuss Dedication as a possibility. Depending on scheduling, this can be 2-5 months.
Regardless of prior experience, we (as a tradition) require a prospective member work for us for at least a year before considering initiation in the tradition or coven. That’s to give both me and you plenty of time to make sure it’s the right decision. It also lets you experience a full ritual cycle.
[Last updated: January 2019]