F is for Friends

[Yet another in the Pagan Blog Project]

It has been a very busy week (Paganicon, two days and a presentation at a professional conference, and upcoming trad things tomorrow that require preparation) so this is likely to be both short and less coherent than my usual.

That said, today I’d like to talk about who you know. I resisted, for a very long time, the idea that I was really a Connector personality.

a) I am an introvert
b) I know people who are *much much much* larger range Connectors than I am.
c) I have some weird personal Things about what I know and sharing what I know, and Stuff. (Yes, I’m a librarian. I still have Weird Things.)

But at the same time, I’ve been aware for a long time that part of how I do an awesome job at finding certain kinds of information – or resources, or material, or poking at concepts – isn’t because I’m good at them myself. It’s because I know people who are. And I keep a sort of organic mental list of “Hey, people who might point me in the right direction.”

It’s the thing about being a generalist: I know a little bit about a whole lot of things. I know a lot about a few things. But I also know there’s a lot of stuff I don’t know. So when I can, the *better* source is to find a friend (or a friend of a friend) who really knows tons about that thing.

I am also deeply grateful for a week that has included a lot of just plain friend time – getting several days with a college friend I don’t usually get to see that long and that much. Staying with a wonderful friend and having lots of time to hang out. (At the moment she is making jewelry and I am typing, and we are both companionably on her couch). Lots of conversations with other local friends about awesome mutual stuff.

And besides that being fun, that’s how I get better at doing stuff. By talking to people who are not me, who see the world through a different lens.

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  • Deguwitch Rose

    Valid points there. A lot of people seem to overlook the fact that by being friends with diverse types of people, different to our own, we grow more rounded as individuals.